What Mommies Want

 Of course all mommies want some basic things such as praising God for the blessings of our child(ren), giving their child(ren) the very best life has to offer, having healthy child(ren), and last but not least we do want to be superwoman! All of those things are the foundation of what mommies want but there is more much more to us than that.

To spell it out and please add more as you wish but here is a list I've heard others say and even myself say too:

-To know we are good Mothers because secretly we worry constantly we are not good enough
-Even though we are Mommy all the time please still treat us as an individual don't box us into a corner as if we are not supermom, superwife, how about just plain super person 
-Give us a break on occasion to pee alone or whatever else we might need even if it's just for a few hours each week
-Don't think we are a walking disaster especially if you haven't walked in our shoes because to the very best of our ability we are more organized than we seem
-We are in charge of a life or more therefore we CAN do more than you give us credit for at work even if we are 5 minutes or more late most days
-We are professionals at work then change into the cook, cleaner, laundry, finance, etc at home and do not need a parade in our honor for that but once in a while it would be nice to be told how amazing we are especially by our hubby's 

-Even if we do not "work" outside the home never assume we do not work extremely hard 24/7 because the sheer fact the house is still ours and the kids are alive lets you know we did work VERY hard

-If we do smell like desitin, have spit up on our back, or even a cookie in our hair please politely keep your comments to yourself unless you know we are about to walk out the door to face a load of people then politely give us a few bathroom minutes prior to leaving to hunt for the said items

-Please remember that before we were moms we were the runner, loved to go to wine tastings, hiking was relaxing, a good bath bomb in the bubble bath was world peace, spray tans did make us feel healthy, spas were a vacation, beaches or any trip for that matter was the key to our heart, a clean house made for a clearer mind, and much more was who we are so those things are still there just put on the back burner to concentrate on top priorities of raising sweet babies

I could go on for days and I'm sure some moms out there could also add a million more, but what it boils down to is that we want first and foremost to raise amazing individuals that are happy and healthy and along the way have respect in doing that.  I really do believe you can have it all as a mother because no matter what others may say or think you do have it all!!

Together = Anniversary Celebration

Today is the day I went out with my now husband for the FIRST time 11 years ago. WOW 11 years is a long time! We were still teenagers during our first meeting and we have been through a lot together so it is time to celebrate our anniversary of being brought together!

For those of you who do not know me you need to know that family is my number one in life and my family has shown me an enormous amount of love throughout my life. They have also given me an example of what a family should be and I pray everyday I am following that example so our family will grow with more love each and everyday! Just for fun I thought I would show you some photos over the years of the love we have shared!

Above you will see a photo of my amazing parents on their wedding day with my paternal Grandfather. My Mom and Dad are so good to me that I couldn't measure the amount of love they have and still give to me!! LOVE YOU MOM AND DAD!!!

Another wedding photo above is of my Mother and Father In-law hope they don't mind me sharing this on my blog, but they have also been together for a long while proving that the test of time is not a match for love!

My Brother and his beautiful wife recently got married and we all were in their wedding which was wonderful!!  Love you Bro and also super excited to say now I have a sister :) even if it is in-law :)

Above is the day I married my sweetheart back in 2006!  It was a beautiful day that overflowed my love tank to the max!!  If I had to do it over again I would change some things but NOT the man!! :) LOVE YOU HONEY!!! 

BEST day of our life when we had our son!  The feeling of being a Mother is the most powerful and humbling feeling on Earth in my opinion because this sweetheart is a gift from God that I will cherish and love forever more!!!

:-)LOVE FOREVER :-)
HAPPY 11 YEARS!!!

Angry Birds

Happy Valentines Day!!! Wild start for the title I gave this post, I know, but as I was reflecting on family, my marriage, and motherhood I could not help myself I had to think about angry birds.

What is angry birds?!? Well you might know it is a highly addictive waste of time game and yet you know secretly you love to play it! Google it or warning do not if you value your time!!

Anyway what does this game have to do with my life or marriage OR yours for that matter? I think it is the underlying strategy of the game that makes me think about life.

In life I have found not everything is as it seems - don't go for the most obvious shot to win the game sometimes the less attractive harder shot is the one that takes down the entire structure giving you the three gold stars! Many times I could see myself taking the easy path in life but I never have I've stayed on the rocky road because I have faith that the road will lead me to a place worth all the hard work it took to get there and it has! Marriage and motherhood are defiantly two very amazing yet rocky roads which is something I could never live without therefore daily I try to work hard at being both a wife and a mother. I'm not sure I'll win the three gold stars but I'm working hard to get there with a lot of help from God because I pray often that I can be everything needed for everyone I love.

I must admit at times I've let the pigs or monkeys get me down in life but I've been flown over it all untouched through my belief of handing over the things I cannot change. Sometimes I've put on the angry bird face... mostly with the people in my life that I really care about because if I didn't care so much I wouldn't bother to be so upset or disappointed. Also I've been an angry bird when I think someone is trying to hurt those I love.

If I had to pick which bird I would be I would choose the bomb bird since sometimes I feel like I'm going to explode with ideas, anger, love, and in general I'm ticking all day plus night!!

The point is - love is worth working for and one day is NOT enough so try to show the ones you love that you love them more! That is a real New Years resolution that I am trying to accomplish this year and on!!!!

Much love to you and yours EVERYDAY!!!! :-)

LOVE Ahhh...

With Valentines day fast approaching I know a LOT of people are dreading it and a LOT of people are in LOVE with it.  I am honestly in love with love because it is such a strong emotion that it can make anyone do anything even if it is totally out of character for them which is in my opinion a superpower! 

I am not in favor of one day called Valentines day because it is money down the drain. With the strong economic down turn no matter how much money you make or have it is uncertain how much it will be worth from day to day therefore stressing out and going out to buy just the PERFECT gift to show someone you love them is NOT my type of romantic. Also, it does not make me happy to know my bank account has decreased with little return since flowers die within a week and chocolate around me doesn't last a day plus gives me gilt for a month or more.

Romance aside I also really wish that I could talk on the phone or visit several friends that I love everyday and in some way let my amazing family know... really know... how much I love them every millisecond.  Family and Friends are the VERY reason I am who I am plus without the real true long lasting bonds I'm not sure a person can be whole... so corny but in my mind so true! 

Right now with life being so fast I think we are too busy to have real interaction with people (I know I do not) because my best friend that I "talk" to everyday is actually my IPod yes it is so sad to say, but I connect with friends, family, shop, pay my bills, watch movies at 2AM, chat on facebook, and now I am using it to post quick blogs!  I feel ashamed when I think it has really come to this one device that it gets more face time than my own Mother, but it does let me chat with her at 1AM when we both are not going to bed.  This might be an entire post on it's own someday, but the point is I try to show my love through the web since my availability in real life is limited! 

My best friend :-(

Back on Track Here: 

I know for me the real deal is when someone does something so little just to let me know I crossed their mind. It speaks so loud that they really care anytime of year!! Some examples that get me:
-Sends me a facebook note just to tell me they are thinking about me and my family
-Writes a letter and mails it to me (that's now 45 cents but worth millions)
-Call me and even though I don't answer OR return a call within a month or two (shameful I know) they forget about it and talk with me as if we have talked everyday
-Surprises me even though it is difficult to surprise me. I do know how much thought goes into a surprise and it is amazing!
-Follow my dreams by showing support along the way even if it's just to ask how things are going and really listening

This list could seriously get WAY too long, but you get the point it doesn't take money and it really means more when it doesn't.  Plus I really feel bad when I do get something I know is very costly and feel like I need to repay you in some way for the burden it has placed on your wallet if you do get me something that is super expensive.  Around my house we have a budget for everything and you can ask my Husband I watch every red cent that comes in and goes out which is in my blood since I have worked in budget and finance my entire working life.  However, we do know how and when to spend and when to hold back just by researching options plus budgeting for the things we love.

Therefore the day of LOVE (aka Valentines Day) around here is not a display of roses or anything else that expires in a few days it is a day where we might go on a date to talk and eat some good food then come home to have dessert or just get some much needed R&R!!! :)

Happy Valentines Day though because like I said I'm in love with love so if you only show it one day a year at least you show it!!! :-). Hopefully you will find a way to show it more often - I know I'm trying to do better this year!!!